 Week 1
A single girl in South Wales
Once upon a time there were 1.5 million women living in Wales. Just over a million of these women were married and the other 400, 000 were single........including me! A number of these women are mothers, some not wanting any children. Many work for the Council. Countless working in local supermarkets and schools and I'm sure even self-employed.
So many have had a good relationship past, a lot with a bad relationship past, and like me numerous women have had an UGLY relationship past!
Even though all us women are different, we have come from different back grounds, have different careers and different lifestyles. I'm certain there is one thing that we all have in common. We've all had our heart broken!
So what do we do when we find ourselves in 'Dumpsville' or a singleton again? The usual would be to cry, beg him to give it another go, cry, promise him things will change, mope about, stay in bed way too long, eat too much or stop eating, cry, go over and over in our heads all the things we love about him, where it went wrong and completely blame ourselves. Oh and cry more! But surely dwelling on it for weeks and weeks is not the answer. Yes, having a cry and having a few off days is acceptable; after all we're only human and bottling it up will do more harm than good in the long run.
Bearing in mind, I myself have recently gone through a painful break up, so my wounds are still fresh. I suggest you laugh! Don't even replay all the things you hate about him, don't think about him full stop, he's not worth it. Delete all numbers, including any of his friends or families numbers you may have, bag everything he ever gave you and photos. Decide if you can sell anything on, that extra money will come in handy when your out and you want an extra cocktail in Wetherspoons on the weekend. (The green one is my favourite!) Give the rest back so he can see what he's throw away or if you are really brave throw it out! Change your hair, buy a new outfit, enjoy a night out in town, laugh again, sort through all your things and have a spring clean, making sure your music is up really loud, take up a new hobby, do things you've always wanted to do, laugh even more and as often as you can. Once you let go, you're on the right path.
However, the most important thing is to concentrate on you and what you want from life and what is going to make you happy in the long run. Just give it time; you'll soon see a huge difference. Don't let your past relationships ruin your present and future and I'm sure in time you will think of the ex that broke your heart fondly.................. as an idiot!
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