I like most women have got more than my fair share of ‘Ex’s’. None of whom I’m still friends with. Unfortunately, my attitude towards ex-boyfriends isn’t “We loved, I learnt so much, now go, and love again”. It’s more “We didn’t work out, so you really need to not exist to me anymore!” This is mainly because men, including all my ex’s seem to have a personality transplant the moment we split up. What’s with the stinking attitude? If a relationship ever meant anything, feelings just don’t disappear overnight. So it makes you wonder if you can believe all the lines guys throw your way in the first place. I just wish Ex’s would refrain from talking to us like something they found on the bottom of their shoe. They just seem to become completely different people. It makes you wonder why you went out in the beginning. Again, my attitude is to give it straight back to them, give as good as you get, let them know exactly how you feel and what you think. Don’t worry about being hurtful or over the top, our feelings don’t seem to matter to them, so why should we care about theirs? I guess some people would say I’m being passive aggressive, but come on, How many 20something women living in the Rhondda aren’t?

In my opinion, it’s just best to cut them off. There is no point on dwelling on them or the relationship, men don’t do this.

I’m sure I don’t speak for all ex boyfriends, some can turn out to be good friends and I’m happy for those women who have this relationship. If my ex’s didn’t act so ridiculous afterwards, maybe I could have stayed friends with them. On second thoughts, I doubt it, I did try once or twice but it really annoyed me. I just don’t want ‘bad’ history coming out for a drink with me and texting me telling me what he’s been up to. But that’s just me.