Ghost Town
Being such a huge fan of Sex and the city, it was inevitable that I would relate to certain aspects of the show. Yes, I know the show and characters are fiction, but this doesn’t mean that the events that took place, the issues discussed and morals we learnt on the show are.
In season 4, the show asked “When a relationship dies, do we ever really give up the ghost, or are we haunted forever by the spirits of relationships past?”
Personally, I do try to forget and reject thoughts of my ‘exes’ entering my mind. Thinking about past relationships and boyfriends in a word, depresses me. Especially thinking of early relationships I had, it makes me cringe.
However, living in such a small town, it is inevitable that sooner or later most of us ladies will bump into an ‘ex’ or at least pass him in the car. When this happens, it’s only natural that we’re going to think of certain things from the relationship, or feel a certain way, good or bad, depending on how and why it ended. Plus, if there is a god, we’ll look amazing, which will undoubtedly make the whole incident more satisfying, rather that it just be the day we bumped into an ‘ex’.
Another factor is his family. When the relationship dies, does your relationship with his family die along with it? After a break up, if all you want to do is move on, get the thoughts and memories of a failed relationship out of your head, then staying close or having friendships with his family is a no-no! Again there’s always that possibility that sooner or later, just as you may bump into an ‘ex’ you may also bump into a member of his family. Once more, this is going to make you (although not intentionally) reflect back and think of the relationship.
I have to wonder, is there ever really an escape from our
previous relationships? Are we taking our ‘ghosts’ from relationship to relationship? Plus, will these ‘ghosts’ influence our present or future relationships?
It seems, even if the ‘ghosts’ of our past relationships are just that, the instant you come face to face with an ‘ex’ or his family, the ‘spirit’ is awoke and even if it is just for those few moments, you are haunted by that ‘spirit’ of relationships past.