Is your glass half empty or half full?
Lying in bed, it recently occurred to me that my thoughts and feelings about relationships and men have been quite pessimistic. This has not been intentional and just because I believe that women shouldn't settle for relationships over their own dreams and ambitions, I'm nowhere near being 'Anti-men'. I've always enjoyed having a boyfriend and being in a relationship. Even though it didn't seem to matter how happy I was at the start or how much 'in love' I felt, there was always a feeling that something was missing.
For many women, that feeling is marriage and children and for a short time I just assumed that was the feeling I had. Having had the opportunity to get married and start a family a few times myself and not going through with it, I soon came to realise the missing link to me and my life could not be found in a relationship.
When the thought of life and relationships came to me, I began to ask myself "Am I an optimist or a pessimist?" I thought I had an optimistic approach. However, going over my thoughts it seems at times I'd developed negative feelings and approaches to life and relationships. Or another way to put it, I've felt my glass is half empty! Something was missing.
After my last break- up, I realised that the 'something' was me! While I've been single, I've had chance to figure out who I really was, what I actually wanted from life and how I'm going to achieve it. I have a completely different out look to life and relationships; I'm thinking more positive and have gained more confidence when it comes to getting what I want out of life. I'm now an optimist, and my glass feels half full!
In spite of my choice, I'm happy for the women out there, who are in relationships, having said that, only if they are in the relationship for the right reasons, and not because they've just settled.
Unfortunately, it can be easier to settle and stay in relationships that doesn't work, rather than embrace 'singledom'.
Remember if your relationship seems half empty, maybe it's time to make over your relationship, adjust the way you think or, ............. dump him!
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